- Either I am perfect or I am worthless.
- Either I am a “great” father or I am a “bad” father. . .
- They tend to maximize failures and minimize successes. . .
- . . . When perfectionists evaluate their performance, they are really judging their personal worth.
Rethink what it means to be successful.
It might help to remember, for instance, that a .300 hitter in baseball is a very good batter.
But this average means that he gets a hit only three times in every 10 times at bat.
Some of us are trying to hit a home run every time we swing the bat. This is unrealistic. It will drive us crazy.
- According to Ephesians 6:4 Paul warned: “fathers, do not exasperate your children”.
- Exasperate= to increase the intensity or violence of (disease,pain, feelings, etc.).
The father exasperates his kids when he expects them to get 10 hits out of 10 tries at bat.
Fathers have to give themselves AND their children room to FAIL.